Pediatrician and Mom from Cleveland, Ohio
“Dear Dr. Lazarus,
I wanted to let you know how your video “Keeping the Bed Dry” helped my son in so many ways. When he was 3, my son was completely potty-trained during the day. By 5 years old, he was dry at night. However, he became ill and needed to be hospitalized at that age. He left the hospital on medications that he took for many months, some of which made him gain weight. With this, he also began wetting the bed again at night. It was a source of shame for him, and it frustrated him that he could not have sleepovers with his friends. His younger sister became dry overnight in the meantime, and this further bothered him and made him feel ashamed.
As a Pediatrician and mother of five children, I felt I needed to explore every opportunity to assist him in getting dry. We tried everything to help: We were waking him at midnight and walking him (like a zombie) to the potty, but he didn’t even remember going when he woke up in the morning, and he had still filled his Pull-Up. We tried setting an alarm so that he would take more responsibility for waking himself, but most of the time one of his siblings tired of hearing the buzzing and got up to turn it off after about 5-10 minutes of him sleeping right through the noise. We tried DDAVP (Desmopressin), and maxed out on the dose, but no change occurred. We went to see the urologist, and were told everything was normal. Because we have a strong family history (on both sides) of nighttime wetting, we had just about resigned ourselves to buying Pull-Ups indefinitely. Then, at 9 years old, my son announced he wanted to go to sleep-away camp. So we did some research and found Dr. Lazarus’ video.
My husband and I watched the first portion without our son. Then we watched the next chapters with him. We encouraged him to draw the pictures, do the exercises, practice the mindfulness, and void an extra time before climbing into bed for the night. We also made a beaded bracelet that read, “I got this” to remind him to start and stop the stream during daytime voids to strengthen the muscle and the connection to the brain. It also served to reinforce his autonomy with this undertaking, basically saying that he (not his mom or dad) has this under control. We did not remind him or wake him throughout the night. From the first time he watched the video; he was dry overnight. It has been 3 weeks and we have had only 1 accident (after which he stripped his own bed and announced “I’ll get it right tomorrow night”). No tears, no blaming, no fighting, and no falling apart.
This experience has boosted my son’s confidence in ways that I did not anticipate— he is proud of himself, and feels empowered and capable and grown-up. He wakes up strutting in his boxers in the morning, instead of hiding in the corner, peeling off a wet Pull-Up. What a remarkable talent you have, and what a difference it can make in a child’s life.”
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